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Nature, Nurture, and Choice: Understanding Your Attraction to Narcissists

alana barlia August 3, 2024

This blog post dives into nature, nurture, and empowering choices that can help you understand and break free from narcissistic relationships.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic supply, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic relationships, boundaries with a narcissist, codependent, codependent relationships, healing codependency

Navigating the Narcissistic Storm: The Grey Rock Method

alana barlia December 23, 2023

In the complex web of human relationships, encountering difficult personalities is inevitable. One challenging personality type that many people find themselves dealing with is the narcissist. The Grey Rock method is a strategy designed to minimize the emotional response and engagement with a narcissistic individual. Read more on this method here.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic parenting, narcissistic partner, narcissistic personality disorder, boundaries with a narcissist, boundaries, grey rock method, grey rock, extinction behavior, autonomic nervous system, codependent relationships, codependency, starve a narcissist
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Exploring Love Addiction in Toxic Relationships

alana barlia November 26, 2023

Your brain is in an addictive cycle of reward & punishment that is so difficult to release. And that is because of something called Intermitten Reinforcement. Read on to learn more about how our brain chemistry plays a role in our crucial relationship choices.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, codependent relationships, codependency, mental health, healing relationships, toxic relationships, dopamine, serotonin, couples therapy, therapist, new york therapu
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The Suffering Parent: An Insidious Type of Narcissism

alana barlia November 20, 2023

If you have read my blog, you know the tell-tale signs of Narcissistic Personality. But do you know the more insidious side of Narcissism? Not the type of Narcissist who screams, yells, and belittles - but the type whos suffering is so loud there is no room for you? That is the type of Narcissism we touch on in this blog post.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic parenting, narcissistic personality disorder, victimized parent, suffering parent, gaslighting, victim mentality, boundaries, boundaries with a narcissist, codependent, people pleasing, victim, victim stance
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The Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse

alana barlia October 12, 2023

Ever wonder why it’s so hard to break free from narcissistic relationships? In this post I dive into the cyclical nature of narcissistic abuse & why it makes it so hard to leave.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic partner, narcissistic relationships, narcissistic parenting
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How to Spot a Narcissist - 5 Signs to Look For

alana barlia September 5, 2023

Ever wonder if somebody in your life has narcissistic personality traits? Here are 5 signs to help you spot a narcissist in your life.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic parenting, narcissistic relationships, narcissism, narcissistic partner, codependent relationships, codependent, codependency, people pleasing, perfectionism, alanon
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The Narcissistic Mother Wound_And How To Heal

alana barlia February 25, 2022

This post reflects on the specific treatment of daughters by narcissistic mothers. There are actionable steps that you can take if you have experienced narcissistic parenting, and this post aids in exploring some of those options.

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Tags narcissistic parenting, parenting, narcissistic abuse, narcissism, narcissistic personality disorder, emotional abuse, emotional dysregulation, emotional trauma, sympathetic nervoyus system, inner child wound, autonomic nervous system, vagus nerve, breathwork, trauma, body trauma, inner child, mother-daughter, mother daughter relationship
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My Partner is Showing Signs of a Personality Disorder: But Which One?

alana barlia September 20, 2021

Feeling unsafe in your relationship with your partner? Or wondering if they are exhibiting tendencies of a personality disorder? Here is a summarized look at the similarities and differences between Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder as it relates to intimate partner relationships.

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Tags personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, signs of borderline personality disorder, narcissism, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, cycle of abuse, abusive relationships, mental health
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Narcissistic Parenting and the Cycle of Abuse Part II: The Inner Child Wound

alana barlia July 1, 2021

Years long chaos and unpredictability with a narcissistic parent will lead children to seek solace through perfectionism and codependency. Here we explore the inner-child wound that evolves through narcissistic parenting abuse.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, personality disorder, narcissism, narcissistic parenting, parenting, codependency, perfectionism, inner child wound
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Narcissistic Parenting and the Cycle of Abuse: Part I

alana barlia July 1, 2021

Narcissistic Personality Disorder in a parent deeply affects children. Here I explore the cycle of abuse that ensues when a parent struggles with NPD.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissism, personality disorder, emotional abuse, emotional dysregulation, central nervous system, mental health, codependency
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Physiological Effects of Trauma - And How You Can Self-Heal

alana barlia February 21, 2020

Ever wonder how trauma is being held in the body? This post focuses on how and where trauma is held in the body and how one can use their tools and resources to self-heal.

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Tags trauma, traumatized, vagus nerve, body trauma, emotional trauma, invalidating environment, emotional dysregulation, BPD, borderline personality disorder, narcissism, narcissistic personality disorder
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Supporting a Partner with Borderline Personality Disorder

alana barlia February 21, 2020

Are you or your partner struggling with emotional dysregulation or Borderline Personality Disorder? Read on to learn about how you can best support each other.

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Tags personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, couples therapy, couples counseling, marriage counseling, couples, boundaries, signs of borderline personality disorder, depression, bipolar disorder

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