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The Lasting Impact of Emotionally Immature Parents on Adult Identity and Relationships

alana barlia June 7, 2025

This article dives into the weeds on how emotionally immature parenting will affect your sense of self and your adult relationships. Read on to learn more about how this wound may create barriers in intimacy and connection with yourself and others in adulthood.

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Tags emotionally immature parents, emotional abuse, emotional trauma, emotional regulation, adult child of alcoholic, addiction, spousal addiction, marriage, narcissistic relationship, narcissistic mother, narcissistic parenting

How Parental Alcoholism Shapes Us as Adults

alana barlia January 8, 2025

This blog post discusses the chronic stress of growing up with an alcoholic parent, and explores the thought patterns and behavioral changes experienced by Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOAs)

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Tags ACOA, attachment theory, adult child of alcoholic, alcoholic parenting, alcoholic parents, al, narcissistic parenting, codependency, people pleasing, therapy, new york therapist

Navigating the Narcissistic Storm: The Grey Rock Method

alana barlia December 23, 2023

In the complex web of human relationships, encountering difficult personalities is inevitable. One challenging personality type that many people find themselves dealing with is the narcissist. The Grey Rock method is a strategy designed to minimize the emotional response and engagement with a narcissistic individual. Read more on this method here.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic parenting, narcissistic partner, narcissistic personality disorder, boundaries with a narcissist, boundaries, grey rock method, grey rock, extinction behavior, autonomic nervous system, codependent relationships, codependency, starve a narcissist
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The Suffering Parent: An Insidious Type of Narcissism

alana barlia November 20, 2023

If you have read my blog, you know the tell-tale signs of Narcissistic Personality. But do you know the more insidious side of Narcissism? Not the type of Narcissist who screams, yells, and belittles - but the type whos suffering is so loud there is no room for you? That is the type of Narcissism we touch on in this blog post.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic parenting, narcissistic personality disorder, victimized parent, suffering parent, gaslighting, victim mentality, boundaries, boundaries with a narcissist, codependent, people pleasing, victim, victim stance
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Protect Yourself: Learning to Set Boundaries With a Narcissist

alana barlia November 20, 2023

The best way to deal with the narcissist in your life? Set. Boundaries. This blog post will guide you through some necessary boundaries to set with the narcissist in your life.

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Tags boundaries, boundaries with a narcissist, narcissistic parenting, narcissistic relationships, narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, mental health, therapy, couples ther, codependency
an infographic exploring the cycle of narcissistic abuse in 4 steps.

The Cycle of Narcissistic Abuse

alana barlia October 12, 2023

Ever wonder why it’s so hard to break free from narcissistic relationships? In this post I dive into the cyclical nature of narcissistic abuse & why it makes it so hard to leave.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic partner, narcissistic relationships, narcissistic parenting
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Like Parent Like Partner: Do We Really Seek Partners Who Remind us of Our Parents?

alana barlia September 5, 2023

Do we REALLY seek relationships with partners who remind us of our parents? The short answer is - YES. Read more on why.

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Tags attachment, early attachment, parental attachment, attachment theory, narcissistic parenting, narcissistic partner, narcissistic relationships, codependency, codependent relationships
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How to Spot a Narcissist - 5 Signs to Look For

alana barlia September 5, 2023

Ever wonder if somebody in your life has narcissistic personality traits? Here are 5 signs to help you spot a narcissist in your life.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic parenting, narcissistic relationships, narcissism, narcissistic partner, codependent relationships, codependent, codependency, people pleasing, perfectionism, alanon
a young mother and her daughter being silly and sticking their tongues out together on the streeet.

The Narcissistic Mother Wound_And How To Heal

alana barlia February 25, 2022

This post reflects on the specific treatment of daughters by narcissistic mothers. There are actionable steps that you can take if you have experienced narcissistic parenting, and this post aids in exploring some of those options.

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Tags narcissistic parenting, parenting, narcissistic abuse, narcissism, narcissistic personality disorder, emotional abuse, emotional dysregulation, emotional trauma, sympathetic nervoyus system, inner child wound, autonomic nervous system, vagus nerve, breathwork, trauma, body trauma, inner child, mother-daughter, mother daughter relationship
woman giving a piggy back ride to small child up a rising road in the fall.

Narcissistic Parenting and the Cycle of Abuse Part II: The Inner Child Wound

alana barlia July 1, 2021

Years long chaos and unpredictability with a narcissistic parent will lead children to seek solace through perfectionism and codependency. Here we explore the inner-child wound that evolves through narcissistic parenting abuse.

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Tags narcissistic abuse, narcissistic personality disorder, personality disorder, narcissism, narcissistic parenting, parenting, codependency, perfectionism, inner child wound

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