Spotting a narcissist can be challenging, as there is a lot to sift through emotionally at the beginning of a relationship. We might be caught up in the charm & charisma they possess, we may be seeking a relationship over seeking an authentic bond, or we may just plain be ignoring red flags!

There are a few key signs and behaviors that can help identify narcissistic behaviors. It is important to note that these signs should not be used as a diagnosis for “Narcissistic Personality Disorder”, but rather can indicate that somebody has narcissistic features & that you may struggle to have a healthy relationship dynamic with them. Here are five ways to spot a narcissist:

1. Excessive self-importance and grandiosity: Narcissists have an inflated sense of self-importance and believe they are superior to others. They often exaggerate their achievements, talents, and abilities. They seek undue admiration and attention from others, expecting special treatment and recognition.

2. Lack of empathy: One of the defining characteristics of narcissism is a lack of empathy towards others. Narcissists struggle to understand or relate to the emotions and experiences of those around them. They are primarily focused on their own needs, desires, and feelings, disregarding the feelings and needs of others.

3. Sense of entitlement: Narcissists have an entitled mindset and believe they deserve special privileges and treatment. They may expect others to cater to their needs without reciprocation. This sense of entitlement can manifest in various ways, such as expecting constant praise, demanding excessive attention, or exploiting others for personal gain.

4. Manipulation & Gaslighting: Narcissists are skilled manipulators who use various tactics to control others. They may employ tactics such as gaslighting (manipulating someone into doubting their own reality), guilting, or playing victim to maintain power and control over their victims.

5. Lack of accountability: Narcissists rarely take responsibility for their actions or admit when they are wrong. They tend to deflect blame onto others or make excuses for their behavior. When confronted with criticism or consequences, they may become defensive, lash out, or engage in victim-blaming.

If these 5 signs are reminiscent of somebody in your life, it’s important to seek support & community. The more validated you can be from others, the more likely you will be to trust your own instincts & begin to set boundaries with the narcissist in your life.

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